I loved living in Ravenswood, a neighborhood on the north side of Chicago. Even the name was evocative of some kind of old-timey place rife with history and magic. I lived in a giant one-bedroom apart...Read More
I love a ritual—especially one that involves handwriting, nostalgia, memory keeping and self-reflection. In January 2022, I started a new ritual, aptly titled “New Year’s Day Cards.” At the en...Read More
Getting a puppy is a big step. For anyone. Getting Kallie was an even bigger step for me. Because bringing her into my life was the first big step I took toward moving forward after Ken’s death. The...Read More
I met up with my buddy Matt in Southern Illinois for our third annual camping trip the weekend before Labor Day. I’d picked the far south location because of its proximity to Cairo, IllinoisR...Read More
The older I get, the harder it is to mourn a life I didn’t have. -Me, today June 1, 2011 was also a Wednesday. I wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t checked the calendar just now. As I s...Read More
As someone who spends a lot of time in front of his computer, I was so pleasantly surprised to run across some really old pre-iPhone pix I snapped of Ken and me. The one above is dated 28 days after w...Read More
Dear Ken, I’ve thought about this day for a long time: what would feel like to have lost you for as long as I had you—just 10 years. How much would it hurt? And what would it mean? Anything? Every...Read More
It was a cold, rainy October night in 2014. I was snuggled up on my sofa in front of the fire–probably drinking wine–when there was a knock at my door. I had only lived there since January...Read More
I met a handsome stranger in a little neighborhood bar twenty years ago today. Twenty years! Ken’s and my paths crossed permanently on March 23, 2001. And the universe just wouldn’t let me...Read More
2021 seems to be the place where 2020 stored its momentum while it was having a nervous breakdown. Given the shit show of 2020, I’m pleasantly (and unpleasantly) surprised to see we’re act...Read More