My Past and Present with Pride

As I talked with my friends and enjoyed the community and fellowship of my first Pride event–on the Circle in Indianapolis–a man walked slowly and deliberately through the celebration. Wearing a gas mask. It was the early 90s and also my first experience with a Pride celebration. And with abject hate. That man wanted to send a message that…

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Safe Spaces & Being Your Authentic Self

While on the L heading to work last week, I received a tweet from a BBC reporter who wanted my input about why LGBT people view gay bars/clubs as safe spaces. In the wake of the Orlando shootings, I’d already been giving that some thought and eagerly offered my assistance–though curious as to exactly how I could help. He…

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The Sanctuary of Sameness

The first gay bar I ever went to in Chicago was a small but colorful neighborhood bar called Buddie’s. I’d found it wandering down Clark Street while my friend Denise, who had driven us there from Indiana where she worked and where I attended Purdue. She was attending an author reading and discussion about “obsessive…

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Remembering Pride

(Our first Pride Day together in 2001. Notice Ken’s (l) nail bling.) This week I watched “Out & Proud in Chicago” on WTTW, our local PBS station. It was riveting. I always love a good documentary that focuses on Chicago’s contribution to anything. That this special, narrated by “Glee’s” (and Chicago’s very own) Jane Lynch,…

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Shiny, (Truly) Happy People

(A rare paparazzi shot, catching vintage badasses Denise and Ron (circa 1990) arriving “on the scene.”) I read a blurb recently about a study conducted on a group of “truly happy” people to find what–if anything–they had in common. The study found that those surveyed only shared one trait: the strength of their social relationships….

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An Ode to Kurt Hummel

***Spoiler Alert** if you haven’t watched this week’s episode of “Glee” yet. Fox’s hit teen singing dramedy “Glee” has long been a guilty pleasure of mine. Not just because I think it has the largest “per capita” gay characters of any television show since “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” but the story lines of…

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